So, you’ve decided to take the plunge. There have been a million reasons over the years why you couldn’t go back to school, but now, all the stars are almost aligned (Let’s face it, there’s never a truly perfect moment) and it’s finally your time.

Of course you are feeling those little butterflies in your stomach. You are excited about this new chapter in your life and scared at the same time about how it’s going to impact you and your family. You may be wondering whether you even have what it takes to be a student after all these years.

Let’s face it. You’re not a teenager anymore and school is not going to be about Frat Parties and hookups. You are going back for a purpose and you’re probably a little worried about the changes ahead for your family.

Here is some advice for making the transition a little smoother for you and your family

  1. Don’t expect everyone to be on board. The biggest disappointment is that not everyone will cheer you on or even be happy for this life change. This is your thing. You’re doing it for you and you’re doing it for your family too. 


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We all know if mom isn’t happy, no one is. A staggering 70% of mothers report feeling stressed out most of the time ( If you are married to a stressed out mom, you may be wondering, how can I make my wife happy so we can all get our comfy lives back? First let’s understand why she is stressed to begin with- just in case you didn’t know.

I recently polled a number of moms for a book I am writing for crazy busy women (not crazy, just crazy busy. Hopefully they’ll find the time to read it). A common theme among these stressed moms was struggling with a lack of time to get everything done, feeling guilty if they did anything for themselves and a constant nagging feeling that they are not good enough or doing any of their jobs super well. These women are experiencing a million constant demands from kids, husbands, school, work, family…… do I really need to explain more?

Here are a few things you can do to help out the stressed mom in your life:

Don’t ask her if she got something done-No, she didn’t get it done! She probably would have…

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Must Have Sex Conversations With Your Teen Daughter

Are you that mom who would rather stick an icepick through your eye than talk to your teen daughter about sex (seriously, it doesn’t have to be that bad)? Or maybe the idea of sex conversations makes you squirm a little. We need to talk, girlfriend!

First, let’s talk about why you need to have the conversations. Notice I said conversations. This really should be an ongoing conversation that starts in pre-school. But if you are behind on the 8 ball and even if you fear that your daughter may have already had sex- take a deep breath. It’s going to be okay. It’s time to talk.

The reason why research has demonstrated that abstinence programs have not been successful (teens who participate in abstinence programs do not abstain at any higher rate that those who don’t) is because programs are concentrated, short period intensives. Adolescent sexuality lasts long after the abstinence program is finished. If ongoing conversations aren’t happening at crucial times, one program won’t be enough to tackle the pressures and desires your daughter is experiencing on a daily basis.

So, now that you know an abstinence program isn’t going to save you, it’s time to get really comfortable talking…

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Is this taboo? Can I talk about when this joyous thing called parenting is disappointing? Whether you have a newborn who is screaming all night or a 40 yr old adult child living downstairs, there comes a point (well, many of them maybe) when a parent thinks, wait- this sucks! 

Before you get offended, let me acknowledge that talking about the not so great parts of parenting does not in any way negate the amazing, heart warming, life changing miracle that parenting is. It really is. But sometimes it is truly disappointing. Often, we parents take on way too much guilt, which of course only further impedes our good parenting moments.

We are never off the hook as parents, but that doesn't mean we are destined to a life of guilt, guilt, guilt. 

So let's be real. Mom to mom. When you are having those super bad days and you want to know where you can go throw in the towel, stop, take a deep, slow, breath and try to find one thing that is good right now about your kid in this moment. It's there. I promise you.

Often, when we are feeling disappointed, it's not our kids we are disappointed in, but…

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How Your Body Teaches Your Kids About Prejudice

Why does it feel so uncomfortable to talk about race and racism in this country? Deep down in our gut we know that something just isn’t right and that makes us squirm. Humans strive for internal consistency and when it’s not there, we become uncomfortable. A part of our mind knows that we are all really one family- the human race. The other part knows that we harbor some racism, or stereotypes or discriminatory thoughts. Yes, we do. This makes us uncomfortable. When we become uncomfortable, we actively avoid situations and information likely to increase it. So, it’s normal to feel that way. I invite you to feel it now and keep reading anyway.

There is something called multigenerational transmission process which just means that we unconsciously pass things down in families through the generations. Some things that get passed down are really great, some are really bad. We got dealt a really bad multigenerational hand of racism, fear, confusion and discrimination. And it is NOT our fault! We didn’t ask for this, but it is 100% our job to fix it! How did we become this way? We were taught. How do we stop it? Teach something different. But…

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