Interested in working with me?
I'm honored that you're considering it! I specialize in helping women of faith find freedom from complex shame and codependency so they can create lives they truly love. I do this through both personal coaching and individual therapy, and I deeply value both modalities! Keep reading to learn more about which might be most beneficial to you.
Personal Coaching
Personal Coaching
What You Can Expect From Me:
Do I Have To Come To Your Office?
What I Expect
From You:
Coaching is about getting stuff done! It’s about stretching your performance and desired outcome to its full potential. Coaching provides you with a focused accountability and a fresh, new perspective as you work on accomplishing your goals, resolving your challenges, changing unhealthy patterns of behavior and moving into action. You will leave with tools and skills that you will continue to develop and carry with you into all of your endeavors
Why You Might Want Me To Be Your Coach:
Why You Might Want Me To Be Your Coach:
What You Can Expect From Me:
What You Can Expect From Me:
Do I Have To Come To Your Office?
Do I Have To Come To Your Office?
What I Expect
From You:
What I Expect From You:
As both a coach and a trained, licensed therapist, you get a 2 for 1 with me! As a therapist, I have significantly invested in my training, degrees and experience and have wealth of psychological knowledge about motivation, thinking and behavior. As a coach, I pull from my experience as an entrepreneur and a trained athlete to motivate you and help you get your desired results.
You’ll find me active, focused and engaged. I am a guide, a coach and a cheerleader as I walk with you towards your success. I shoot from the hip and get right to the issue that is keeping you stuck. I will give you my undivided attention as we focus on shorter term, quantifiable goals related to your life, relationship or business. We may visit the past as it relates to your current goals (specifically obstacles) but we won’t spend a lot of time analyzing your past. Coaching is collaborative and client led, based on what you want to accomplish. I will give you homework related to your goals and the specific topics we addressed in the session. Homework moves you from thinking and conceptualizing into action and production. I hold my work with and the information you give me to the same standard as my therapy patients. Coaching can be even more confidential than Psychotherapy because insurance does not cover your coaching sessions and therefore no diagnoses or confidential medical records are disclosed to insurance companies.
I expect you to understand that change doesn’t happen only in the minutes that we speak with each other. Although you may have some cool lightbulb moments, the actual change and progress happens as our talk transforms into action. We start the engine and put into place the steps necessary for you to confidently walk toward your goals. You must be willing to experiment with new ways of conceptualizing and acting in the world. I expect you to be collaborative and provide honest feedback about what you are and aren’t willing to do and how well strategies you have implemented are working in your real world.
Absolutely not. One of the wonderful perks of coaching is that it can happen anywhere. I coach clients Worldwide! Although I do phone sessions, I prefer meeting on zoom because we can see eachother face to face and it isn’t any different than if you were in my office sitting a few feet from me.
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Individual
Therapy
My mission is to empower you with useful tools to make the relational or personal changes in your life that will allow you to live your life and experience your relationships with purpose, freedom, joy, determination and authenticity
Individual Or Couples Therapy:
Individual Or Couples Therapy:
The Individuals & Couples I Love Working With Are Struggling With:
The Individuals & Couples I Love
Working With Are Struggling With:
My Philosophy
My Philosophy
Confidentiality
Confidentiality
FAQ
Therapy, Psychotherapy, Talk therapy and Counseling are often used interchangeably. Therapy is all about YOU! It is a safe, confidential space to focus on self-improvement, where you can talk, explore and resolve anything that is confusing, scary, painful or uncomfortable for you. Everyone’s experience in therapy is different. I tailor your therapy to you and your unique experiences in the world, with the goal of helping you become the healthiest version of yourself. This may include increasing self-esteem, helping you learn to respond differently to your partner, to your children or to life experiences, changing behavior patterns in relationships, helping you make better choices in romantic partners, resolving relationship issues, increasing self-awareness, resolving feelings of loss, increasing motivation…. The list goes on.
- Relationship/ Marriage Issues (Infidelity, Intimacy, Arguing, Emotional distance, 7 year itch, boredom)
- Parenting (feeling overwhelmed, co-parenting, discipline, parent/child relationship)
- Dating (choosing partners wisely, breaking unhealthy patterns, law of attraction, )
- Life Transitions (Divorce, Death, Pre-marital, Retirement, Empty Nest)
- Re-inventing Yourself (I know that I don’t want to be in this same place in the next few years, but I don’t know how to get where I want to go- maybe I don’t even know where that is)
I believe that people can change (but not often for others) and that change most often happens when you are feeling uncomfortable enough in your life that it is scarier not to change than to take the leap that you know you need to take. I also firmly believe that all behavior makes sense in its context. We will explore your context so that you can understand yourself and your motivations and choices better and more importantly, begin to make those transformations in your life and relationships. And believe me, as you change for the better, your relationships have no choice but to follow suit. It is a scientific law that changing one part of a system enacts change on the entire system because we do not live in vacuums but are always influencing and being influenced by our environment. Additionally, our thoughts are exponentially powerful in our lives. They determine our moods and ultimately shape our lives through our behaviors and decisions. We will identify your thoughts and self-talk that is not productive and create a healthier, more productive way of speaking to yourself that will yield positive results in your life. I always respect your viewpoint while I help you deal with specific problems, improve your relationships or develop better ways of living.
Therapy is confidential. I adhere to psychology’s code of ethics and am mandated under the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability (HIPPA) to keep your confidence, unless you tell me you are planning to injure yourself or someone else.
I’m still not sure if I need therapy: If you are asking yourself this question, you could probably benefit from talking to me about what is going on in your life. Don’t wait another day. When you know it’s time to make a change, there is no better time than now!
My partner isn’t ready to come to therapy: No problem. Changing one part of a relationship (YOU), changes the whole relationship. We can work together to create positive changes in your relationship even if your partner is unwilling to participate in therapy at first. My relationship expertise can help you recognize unhealthy patterns and I can provide you with skills you can implement to improve your relationship.
Can I still work with you if I don’t live close to you? Absolutely! It used to be that you could only choose from a therapist or coach who was within driving distance- whether you connected well with them or not. It is exciting that technology allows you to choose from a therapist or coach regardless of geographical distance. You can connect and talk with me right from the comfort of your own home or office. No traveling, no hassle, just grab a cup of your favorite beverage, relax in your chair, click your zoom link and your are ready to go!
Remember, you’re not alone. Therapy is an excellent way for you to address your deepest concerns about life, your future and your past. Your results from counseling will expand the second you decide to put your own needs on the table. And that is something I can definitely help you explore. If you are anywhere in California email me at zoe@drzoeshaw.com to discuss an appointment (by zoom or phone) today. If you are outside of California and are interested in personal or relationship coaching, click on the coaching tab for more information or email me!